What IS in Our Control

Amidst all of the uncertainty we face today and all of the stress, tension, and anxiety that comes with it, we CAN create certainty.  There ARE things in our control!  We CAN ease the stress, tension, and anxiety which comes from not knowing what is next, because there ARE things in our control which come next.  Three (3) easy ways we can help create certainty today through control are listed below.


  1. Shifting Our Focus – It is easy to get caught up in what is happening around us: what the news is reporting, what our governments are doing, what our schools are doing, and if our sporting events will start back up again, to name a few.  Going down this path often carries stress, tension, and anxiety with it because it is chalk full of uncertainty stemming from not having any definitive answers.  However, there is another path to walk.  We CAN shift our focus to us instead of the world around us.  Doing so allows us to ease the stress, tension, and anxiety we feel because it’s not quite as large; it is easier to focus on a single person than it is the entire world.  It also allows us to focus on what we CAN control in our lives: the way we feel, the way we think, and the way we behave.  Shifting our focus onto us WILL create certainty because we KNOW we ARE capable of controlling how we feel, how we think, and how we behave.

  2. The Small Things in Life – Typically, we hear not to sweat the small things in life; however, it is the small things in life right now that WILL help us.  It is a lot easier to take one small manageable step at a time, rather than large unwieldy ones, to create certainty for us.  The small things we do, such as, getting out of bed, brushing our teeth, reading our kids a bed time story, and going for a walk GIVE us certainty because they are things we CAN and DO routinely control in our lives.  Moreover, when we embrace we ARE controlling things in our lives, it is a lot easier to see what else we CAN and WILL control in our lives.

  3. Planning for Outcomes – It is natural to feel uncertain of what will happen next when we face the unknown, not only because we don’t have a definitive answer, but also because we don’t know when things will happen.  This affects our ability to plan when what we are waiting for certainty on is a key piece of the puzzle for our goals or daily lives, i.e., will school be virtual for our kids at the start of the new school year?  However, there are things we CAN control and plan for.  Even if we do not know the answer quite yet, we CAN predict the possible outcomes and plan accordingly for each of them.  We may even find there is some overlap in our plans or one plan is simply going back to how we used to do it.  Creating a plan for the outcomes rather than the goal WILL create certainty from knowing we CAN control how we plan AND what we plan for.

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